Sunday, July 13, 2014

"Is it hard to let them go?"

This question is probably the single most asked question when people learn that we foster.  The answer is....YES....and NO. 

The obvious dilemma when you bring anyone into your home for a significant portion of time is that of course you will miss things about their sweet little faces, personalities, and character qualities.  The way they fill your home with noises, laughter, even the crying and fighting with others. You will miss them dearly, but let me also explain my excitement in the end of their journey with us..

Right now we have 2 little girls God has brought us.  There is chance that both girls might be leaving soon (BIG emphasis on the word might, lol, with CPS, you never know!) While it is weird to think that their time in our family is coming to a close, let me explain their futures and you can see why we are filled with more excitement than grief!

Our first little girl came to us in pretty rough shape 4 months ago. At first, we were told that her dad was MIA. As it turned out, he has been here the whole time, kept from seeing his daughter.  He has done nothing wrong, was just not contacted fast enough! He is eager to get his daughter, loves her, and has put in the work to prove he can provide for her. We are grateful that God gave her to us and we have been able to stand in the gap and help her along the way. She is literally a different kiddo than we first got.  How nice to be able to send her off to a biological dad so much more independent, happy, and healthy! Win all the way around...While we will miss her terribly, and are not really sure of a timeline of when she might go, we are so excited for her dad to begin parenting her fully and assume responsibility for his daughter's life! 

Our other precious girl came to us 5 months ago and we learned that her final goal was adoption. Her mom named a distant relative in another state she wanted her to go live with... Nearing the final process of this home study, our apprehension turned into excitement as this family went to all the trouble to fly the thousands of miles to come visit her for a few days, spend time with her, and get to know her. We found out that before she was ever born, this little girls mom wanted to put her up for adoption, and changed her mind in the end.  This sweet family hired a lawyer and pursued adopting her while she was still in her moms womb! Imagine the heartbreak of this family missing out adopting a sweet baby girl, trying to keep tabs on her, lookout from her from afar, only to find out she was in foster care in another state. This process of adopting the one they have always wanted has been 5 years in the making!!!! This sweet lady said "We have learned that it is not our timing but God's timing"for her to become part of their family. What a testimony this little girl and her future family will have! I can hardly wait! And to know that God ordained us to stand in the gap for her to bridge her rocky past life with a redemptive beautiful future is almost more than I can stand! Can you see where the excitement comes from? 

So, YES, it is hard to send these kiddos off and watch them leave our home... NO, it is not hard because we know that God goes before them, he sees them, and he loves them more than any family, non-family, adoptive family, foster family could ever love them. He has a plan and a purpose for their little lives. It's all about trust and faith. Trusting a Savior big enough to lead them and having faith that you did what you could while you could. 



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